New Game- Exposed

[Truegritter]

I have to go in a different direction. I'm afraid if I stay this close, she;ll grab onto me as she goes over the cliff.

I believe that is true.

One of the downsides to affair busting is that you do not detach while you're doing it.

Impossible to do it.

You are snooping, getting intel, etc.

All the focus is on your W and what is going on and how to stop it.

Now

As I said in my first post to you,

There is a difference in moving on and moving forward.

There comes a point where you know you have done all you can do and it's time to walk away.

Agree. Only you know when that is CD

BUT

I submit that YOUR work and healing begins when you drop the rope and detach.

You will be amazed at the things you see and learn when you do that.

I am going to be lazy and quote this dude who posted yesterday and think is sums up what I want to share with you pretty well.

what is critical is to see what happens in our lives as learning opportunities. What is it you need to learn from this experience? Until you figure that out, you will keep spinning in circles filled with anger, frustration, and sadness. Let that go and figure out what you need to learn. We are bigger than our roles as spouses, parents, workers, etc. Inside each of us there is a core. Move toward that core and the other stuff shrinks in importance. It's not narcissim. Rather, it's an essential journey to wholeness. You will be better for yourself, your kids, and anyone else in your life if you have a deeper sense of yourself.

This ^^^^^^^

Is a process CD.

And it takes time.

And you have time right now.

Protect yourself in every way from being hurt.

Financially, legally, emotionally etc.

Then

Get to work...

And make your decisions from a place of strength rather than weakness, resentment and self doubt.