Alb,
Show MLC'r books = Deny and longer MLC
Tell kids and they won't understand and will try to fix for you = longer MLC.
Tell family members and they won't understand either. Will make it tougher for you. And that also will be longer MLC.
Sorry I have to be so negative on this but you will try each one of these anyway and will learn the sad truth anyway.
Vent through the forum like you said and that will help you.
This takes time. Learn all you can. All of us here have stories
that will make your head spin. All your questions are good though.