I am old enough to have gone through my own life transitions, to have reevaluated myself, my values and my decisions several times over, and to have found a measure of peace with where I've been and why, who I am, and what I believe is important in my life. I have been in an R long enough to understand the gives and takes, ups and downs, the ways in which my H and I have helped and hurt each other, and why. I knew what my personal challenges were well before the B, because I had examined them in the context of both myself and as a partner, and had begun the work some time ago.
Hey Twink ... while I agree that age is a natural process started for some, I think that in addition to putting in time on this planet, experience comes with, well ... experience, and not just age. I think that sometimes this process gets begun regardless of age ... personality and ones experiences can also lead one to begin the work of looking inside. It did for me. Granted, I went on hiatus when the B dropped, and it took me a bit to get back on my feet. The work I'd already started served as a foundation, and I found myself in a place where I didn't need to start the work, I needed to CONTINUE it.
Originally Posted By: Twink
I guess my point is that some LBSs have already begun the same journey that other LBSs only start at the B. Some are well into the work, others haven't ever considered that it was needed. Each person has a different starting point. Regardless of where that is, I do agree with you wholeheartedly that personal growth should really never end.
And continue it I will ... this is a never ending process.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
