New Game- Exposed

[steady]

I'm not sure his decisions are coming from unfulfilled expectations. There comes a point where you know you have done all you can do and it's time to walk away.

You know when that time comes. Mine came already. Did it completely shut off any desire I had to reconcile my M? Hell no. But I am done. There is no effort from me in saving my marriage.

All my effort is going to me and my kids. I will make the best life for myself and my children - and I don't care if I drag her and her family through the coals to get what is right.

Only a fool hopes for something he cannot have - some people will go to their graves holding onto the martyr mentality that they will be 'married' till they die... even when their spouse has moved on, married someone else, and has absolutely no contact with them. Is that healthy? Hell no.

It reminds me of a story I heard years ago...

A Japanese man was courting a woman. He was very in love with her and deeply committed to his principles. He promised her he would meet her at a certain bridge at a certain time.

When that day came, a terrible monsoon hit. The man, holding onto his commitment, set out into the storm. He made it to the bridge and waited. The storm got worse and the water began rising to a dangerous level. A lone stranger crossing the bridge warned the man he should leave. The water would soon overtake the bridge.

The man did not listen. He felt because he told the woman he would meet her, he must be there. His word is his honor and to not keep his commitment would be shameful.

The water kept rising but there was no sign of the woman. The water finally overtook the bridge and swept the man away to his death.....


Some would say he was a man of principle and held it until his end... Me, I say he's an idiot.


Kicking the dirt off your feet, turning your back and walking away may be the very thing that wakes up the WAS. Or maybe not. NOBODY EVER KNOWS. I'm definitely not a believer in any form of action that is looking for a reaction. It's all just crap. An illusion.

You do what is right. You do what you can do. When that is done, you move in a different direction.

He did what he could do. He exposed the affair to everyone he could think of. He put his ass on the line. He found out that family is usually no help to the LBS - remember, that woman came from their genes and their role modeling... it doesn't surprise me when the family acts exactly like the WAS. They are all running the same programming.

Now what is he supposed to do?

I say he stops, looks over his work, exclaims he can do no more, cut off the people who are unhealthy, grieve, then build...build the shite out of his life. Build the best life he can dream of.

If the WAS looks back, they look back. You deal with it if it happens. If they never look back, then it doesn't even matter - because you have held your head high, fought for what was right, did everything you could do, then continued to build a marvelous life for what was left of your family.

Is there anything else?