I just want to add this: say it ONLY for YOU and NOT if you hope it will evoke some kind of change in your H.

Sorry, not to be Debbie Downer or Negative Nancy (her twin), but
have to speak from someone whose H left her for OW and tried to tell him stuff.

A year from now (or less) it is highly plausible that your H will be back. IMO. (((Piano)))

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004