Originally Posted By: newmama
It is that we need to take time to HEAL and not put so much pressure on self improvement, changing our lives...just living and being alone


Sorry I somewhat disagree.

The healing process comes partly from understanding

Understanding those things you contributed

Those things in yourself that you want to change

When you begin that process

You begin to know who you are

And that

Maybe leads you to understanding things about your M and your spouse that you never saw before...

It is part and parcel to the process of healing IMO.

I would say can't happen fully without it.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am