New Game- Exposed

[Truegritter]

Here is what I delivered in person to MIL. And left a copy with her.

I wanted to write you a letter to let you know personally, and in my own words, that I am fighting for my marriage. I have told this to W and I don’t know what, if anything, she has shared with you. I know she very much respects your judgment and guidance which is why I feel the need to communicate directly to you.

I have learned from W that you have met the man with which she is having an affair. I also know from W you have shared his company several times.

I want you to know that I am deeply hurt by your being in the company with my wife and this man. I feel you enable her when you do this. I love your daughter, but I don't agree with what she is doing. If you continue to support their relationship, it will put distance between you and me, and I do regret that. I have always respected and loved you even when we have disagreed. I do not presume to know anything of your feelings on this only that you are aware of this relationship and have presumably condoned it according to what I have learned from W.

I consider this man a predator that is attacking our marriage. He is taking advantage of a vulnerable marriage and very emotionally vulnerable woman. He is a predator, not a romantic interest, and I regard him as such.

I am asking for your help in protecting my marriage and my wife. You can help by not enabling this relationship. You can help me by trying to convince her to give up the relationship and have no further contact with him. When that has happened, and not until then, I have proposed that we begin therapy together. I ask you to support me in this process.

I put a ring on my finger and said forever. I intend to keep that promise until she tells me she no longer wants this marriage.

I intend to protect my marriage with all my heart and determination. I am not asking you to get involved if you are uncomfortable. I am asking that you DO NOT support her affair by interacting with this man. If for whatever reason I have given you cause not to support me in this, I truly regret that. I hope that we can reconcile any reason for that. For now, I ask that you NOT support this man’s attack on my marriage.

Sincerely and with love,

Truegritter

I hope this helps CD. This was delivered several months ago(march) and really there was no consequence to it that I know of. However I believe it is good to stand up for what you believe.

Don't expect too much, in the end, it is her daughter and the prevailing philosophy tends toward the "whatever makes you happy" camp.

I guarantee she will not expect something this thought-out and thought provoking.

I crafted this from some threads I read way back then and I can't remember who's so if owe I someone a nickel...

I will tell you, you will need a bunch of what Christopher Reeve speaks of to do this.

But you will feel great after you do it.

Good luck...