21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

I took the kids to Chuck E Cheese and out to lunch. Get home and thought she was taking them to Spray Park. W gets home at 2:30 and says I set her up using the F bomb. She never used to cuss like she has while in this sitch. She said she never said she was taking them anywhere. I said I didn't set you up and thought you said that. She was mad and took the kids to Spray Park to save face with them. She had to pick up her mom and they all went out for ice cream too. She has never taken the kids by herself anywhere except to drop them off at daycare or her parent’s house. If she doesn't anything with them she takes another adult.

I have taking them to parks, movies, Restaurants, County Fairs, baseball games with just the kids. She has not done one thing with just her and the kids alone.

While they were gone I put together and entire trampoline and told the kids to thank mom since she picked it out (I paid for it all)! After having the kids thank mom she didn't seem so mad.

I did tell her that when she was going to go to Street Fest on Wed Night and I watched the kids she said she was going to watch them for me one night. I said I made plans to go out Friday night at 7 and if she could watch the kids even though she cancelled her night out on Wed. She said yes. I few minutes later she asked is it a date or are you going to say it's none of my business? I said its not a date its just me and some guys. It IS some guys but girls are going too. I am going to tell her its a mixed group but don't know if sooner is better than later to tell her. I'm thinkg sooner so she has longer to think about it. I will say one of the guys invited some girls.

She said she needed to go back up to work (7:15 pm) so she will be able to go to the ballgame with us tomorrow. This is her 13th day in a row she has gone to work. She cut out early yesterday for a hair appointment and was going to take most of last Tues off. Still a strong possibility of an EA on her work computer. I used to call and every-time she was at work at her desk. I am not calling tonight to stay on the dark side of dim.

I still feel like I'm being DB'd. Her 180 would be to spend lots of time with the family. She is non festered most of the time (minus the F bomb set her up to fail with the kids thing) and always look busy and make self unavailable. She got her hair done and always looks made up.

Even if she is I still have to make changes and GAL for me no matter what she is doing. I am pressing forward.