Quote: Another thing I sometimes do is give without wanting anything back (if you know what I mean). This has worked to kick start us back in the right direction again. A little frustrating for me but maybe if CJ is worried about performance knowing that he need do NOTHING and you want to do something for HIM. Especially if you tell him you have got all night and you are happy to be of service. This works wonders with my H. Sometimes he can be a little slow to y'know and I get a little bored. Soon as I tell him he can take all night (and sound like I mean it), whoopeee seconds later all done. It is about lifting the pressure.
Yes, to that!
This has worked well for me as well.
As a matter-of-fact, my H had a lot of trouble with his erector set when I first met him.
It had plagued him for many years and daunted him with his other relationships.
My H has always had a healthy sexual appetite, so this snag was etching away at his masculine self image.
Suffice to say, employing the "I've got all the time in the world and it doesn't matter to me if anything happens or not" worked well for me (and him ) and he jumped the hurdle in record time and only occasionally has hit the skids since.
Oh yea, that point about creating an air of the forbidden is an interesting thought too.
) and he jumped the hurdle in record time and only occasionally has hit the skids since.
