If your wife is cheating then you probably had a hand in that somehow.
False. We are all responsible for our own choices. If there are a problems in a marriage, then chances are that each partner had a role in them (we usually say 50/50 just to be safe).
Nobody makes anybody cheat. That was their choice alone.
You are making excuses for your abuser.
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Now me, Im stupid. I actually want to fix my marriage here.
If you say so. So you have feelings. What marriage? You haven't had a real marriage. The question is can the two of you have one of those for the sake of your kids and the sake of good mental and emotional health?
You sound like a battered wife making excuses for why her husband knocked her teeth out: well, I pushed his buttons. Sure, but you didn't make him shove your face into a pole, lady.
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But there are reason that people are doing what they do. Im simply trying to figure out what is going on in her head right now.
Mind reading doesn't work.
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Seriously dude, if you dont have anything helpful to say...dont
You don't like the answers that people are giving you that say you have to set and enforce healthy boundaries, and that you might not be able to save this marriage. You might not. You might. But it's not worth saving if there aren't healthy boundaries and if she doesn't commit to trying to work on a healthy marriage with you.
But you don't want to read that kind of thing. The kind of thing that says you may have to walk away and be prepared to end the marriage if there is any hope in having a real marriage, that you need to focus on healing yourself and take the focus off of her.
So... your wish not to read it from me is granted.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
