joint counseling session in the morning, need help

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I guess what I am saying is that at the first signs of hope do not give up doing what you have learned here about DBing. Do not draw from emotions when it happens. Draw from the knowledge that you have gained to keep doing what is working for your M to continue the positive little signs. I did not mean to imply that what you are seeing are your emotions or to not let them get in your way.

It seems that myself and others I have seen go back to doing the things that are not helpful to the relationship.

Keep the momentum going and the positive signs coming.

I hope this is a little clearer.

You also have to do what works for you in your relationship and make the decisions you think are best. I am not telling you "let them get in [your] way." Those are your decisions.

I am sorry for the poor post, and I hope this one is not unclear either.