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Greek was not the LBS. Her husband, Coach, worked his BUTT off from what I can tell. He is very, very wise and I have loved each and every one of his posts. I am not so sure they would be together if he had not done this.

this is what really confused me about greek's post.
it seemed like they were on different pages. unless i wasn't reading coach's posts correctly. i thought the face time was needed.

i understand that other vets have chimed in and are adamant that dropping the rope is the key. but they haven't read my sitch thoroughly. "dropping the rope" is great advice for those who are still interacting with their h's for maximum impact. but me? you guys know there is little to no contact. so what is "dropping the rope" going to do? as far as he's concerned, i have and we are two strangers now.

the GAL work that i'm doing is now second nature to me. i'm not faking it anymore. so when i am happy, it's not a fake smile. it's real. i love the changes in me and i have my self-confidence back.

at the beginning of this, i kept saying how devastated i'd be if i found out that there was someone else. how do i feel now? i say go ahead. if he thinks he found someone better than me, then i wish him the best. finding someone takes time. you have to click with that person. once the honeymoon phase is over, the real work begins. if neither of them is committed to doing the work, then he will end up in the same situation .. going through one relationship after another. breakup after breakup. and the best part? i won't be a part of that vicious cycle. so no skin off my back.

i don't think i made changes to who i am over the last 30 days. i think i let the real me out. they weren't changes. i had the opportunity to let the real me out. i wanted to be a better squash player, i wanted to learn how to bake from scratch, and i wanted to take my career further. this is who i was - pre-marriage. i didn't have a bf. it was just me.

i think he is missing out big time. i think i bring a lot to the table. for him not to see it, is his loss.

being me, put a smile on my face. i feel alive again.
and people are drawn to me now. i said that i am so used to bringing out the best in others - which is why people seek me out for mentoring. when i was down on my luck, others have come to help bring out the best in me. do you believe in karma? i do now.

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This time, again, I STILL see things I can do better than before. I have gone to a new level of fabulousness.lol. He will be nuts to leave me, but...there you go! Ultimately you do drop the rope--but not before working your BUTT off!!

i believe in this piece of advice. ultimately, you will drop the rope. it isn't the solution for now.

i think he will be nuts to leave you too.

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You are doing well--please believe Forrest and Coach and me when we say this. You can do this!! You are no where NEAR ready to "drop the rope". Heck, you have barely tried to hold onto it, it is not time to drop it!lol.

thanks, lauraoh.
you've followed my sitch enough to know that i never held on to begin with.

thanks for the encouragement. i am going to keep working on me. and really think about what i will say, how i will say it, and prepare for any outcome.