Well the I guess I need to make sure my Facebook is ALWAYS up to date with ONLY the intel I WANT her to see. HAHAH. Since I know she is checking up on me, I can be very selective about what I post there. And make sure it is nothing but roses and rainbows.
Oh and another thing. When she separated our finances, she THOUGH SHE'D be SMART and leave herself ACCESS to the joint checking account, WHICH WAS SUPPOSED TO BE MINE ONLY.
Thank Heaven for intel systems. I caught wind she was going to take money out of there for "something". I now closed that account and transferred all of my money into my own.
And thanks for the pick me up Allen. I never saw it that way.
I'm actually going to update my post on intel resources later and share the wealth.
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
I read that you said that "the more FIXes she gets the more horribly she treats me"...
What the deal is this. In my sitch where I've basically lost my female companion and all that comes along with it. A part of myself was stripped, so I would give up on myself at times.
By starting to talk with the opposite sex, and understanding that things can go further. Without taking anything in a "cheating" pleace, talking with them was enough to help me stand up for myself in the situation. The reason is, I know there are women who will take me as I am.
I started to thinking about it, if I started cheating on my WAW at this point - I could turn as ugly as her in our interactions. My thought would be, that she left me, that she treats me like crap and I'm not even worried about her, because I'm getting mine and if its a real relationship her games would look like childs play, and I'm sure I would be disrespectful.
So I'm sure she's treating you worse and worse the more along she goes. These other guys who are getting a piece of her, are the real prize in her life she carved out for herself.
Most of us got the same treatment and the further along they get into it, the worse the treatment gets.
I'm not sure what you can do to help your esteem here, but talking with the opposite sex especially if its ones that may be open to you, will give your brain piece of mind that you know later if it comes to it that you will have options and your life will be fine. It will take away the firepower that your wife has on you.
If nobody knew any better I think most people would quickly say SHE is the one pining and can't let go... Her erratic and hostile behaviour is a dead give away dude...
I missed this post earlier.
Well most of the LAST times I have talked to her she has been up and down, very angry ect.
BUT TODAY, she was SMUG AND LAUGHING. Anything I said, she just responded with smug laughter, like she KNEW SOMETHING I DIDN'T.
It was obvious she was playing poker, but there was at least a little genuine confidence in there.
All in all she ENJOYED having a 1-up on me. But it was her SMUGNESS and NOT anger that threw me for a loop. She just politely agreed with me about things, and muttered stuff under her breath.
Then she was VERY happy in the conversation with her mom, and ENJOYED trashing me and making fun of me.
A "bully affair", just great. Its obvious that there may have been an inferiority complex and now she's fixed it.
Its amazing how many of these WAW's get real aggressive against the H in the affair.
And thank you Allen, I NEEDED that pick me up. BUT, I am going to have to wind down some of my intel operations though, as in 2 weeks I won't have access to certain things which could potentially be a problem if discovered later.
I don't know why, but this morning was hard for me. But it's time to get into my left brain, and while doing some housework, work on my DBing plan for the next 2 weeks.
I KNOW this may not SOUND like I am doing it for ME, but every now and then after hard work, training and preparation, YOU HAVE TO ACTUALLY COMPETE. Now for me, it's game time, and time to put myself to the test.
It's time in the last 2 weeks to SHOW MYSELF (and if she notices, cool too) that I can handle all this and be OK with it.
She's already paid me for half of August, so she has a right to be here, for now. I can't control her, but I sure as Hell can act like a bulldog and bring all this new strength OUTWARD.
This is now not the time to hold back on truth darts, and just DO WHAT IS RIGHT.
Any suggestions on what to do in these next 2 weeks are MORE THAN WELCOME.
And you know what the Navy SEALs say?
"THE ONLY EASY DAY WAS YESTERDAY"
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
I have to remove a piece of software that CANNOT be remote uninstalled. It by FAR gives me the BEST intel.
But I can't take the chance that it is discovered. The other software CAN be remotely uninstalled, so if I got word I was blown, all it would take would be one single command remotely and I am cool.
Other than that, I get the SAME intel, just not as HIGH QUALITY. It's much harder to sift through, but can nonetheless do the right job.
Sort of like being used to a Porsche, but end up with just a Lexus.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
As long as you can see her browsing history to find out if she's looking at your FB page.. that is a huge indicator when that happens...
If she's over, gone, done, on the market there is NO REASON for her to be looking at your FB page much less doing searches on any women posting to your wall there...
That was a huge flag when i read she was doing that... As long as you can still have that info at hand...
If she's over, gone, done, on the market there is NO REASON for her to be looking at your FB page much less doing searches on any women posting to your wall there...
Well she hasn't been on Facebook in a few days, so she might not feel the need to check on my everyday.
But EVERY time she is on there, she looks at my profile.
She may also be looking for something to send to her lawyer, like if I do something stupid.
But her Googling that girl was pretty funny.
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
