Quote: would LOVE to know what CJ feels is DIFFERENT now…how is this Marriage better than the one he wanted to escape?
I asked H this very question. His response I don't know, it just IS. I don't think about it very much or dwell on it...I just go with it. I don't think men are too concerned about the HOW's and WHY's...as long as it isn't driving them nuts or making them unhappy they are satisfied.
On the sex issue...I can only go from my own experience but I'll through this out there (lol...I just erased half this post becasue I realized I was taking the long road again ).
I asked H what his wants and needs were regarding our sex life. Need wise he wouldn't tell me specifics...he said "if I tell you WHAT to do or WHEN then it takes the excitement out of it. Just DO what YOU want to do." My H wanted spontaniety and variety in the bdrm...that is all he would tell me regarding his wants. H is also somewhat passive when it comes to sexual pursuit...it is something he has never really had to work on since women have always chased after him. I think I was the one exception to the rule here (he chased me) although once he caught me I did take on a more aggressive role
With that passivity in mind, perhaps CJ is waiting for YOU to take the initiative? Maybe since this is the area that CJ felt he hurt you fairly bad he is hesitant to just jump in right away? Maybe this is the one area where you NEED to pursue
DOn't know if that helps
ZOO
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
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