Re what makes something an affair?

Until the divorce papers are signed, she made an agreement with you ten years ago and she's obligated to keep that... morally at least.. which she hasn't been doing...

She's on a marital crime spree if you ask me... And she's headed for a lot of trouble... she's going to mess with a married man the way she's headed and the LBS in that situation may just decide to get even in a not so negotiatory way... I am thinking firearm...

I have read stories of OW being attacked by the LBS wife with a knife before.. I kid you not.