Beyond Depression..but still a losing battle?

[awest1217]

I agree it is better than living a lie. One positive is that H will have to work on Sunday night right? So he won't have S for very long and during the time he has S, S will have to take his nap so how much time are you actually missing with him? Not much. That is how I get over S being with H.

Also remember you have every right to tell H no even about S. He isn't paying child support and hasn't really been around so if you don't want S to go you don't have to let him go if you already have something planned.

Lastly, think of this as not time away from S, but time for you to relax. Take a long bath or do something you normally can't do with S around. Today I was going to trim the bushes, but it looks like rain all day so maybe cleaning the windows, then going to go shopping, and then the concert. The concert S would love, but when I am cleaning or trimming I can't really spend time with S anyway so it helps me out, and shopping sometimes is nice to do without S because he is getting to that age.

I guess I am trying to brighten your day and to help you see the silver lining. This completely stinks, but H could be using time away from S to get to you too so just take it in stride. It is just one afternoon, not a whole weekend, just some good daddy/son bonding time, which every S needs. Let S decide one day if he doesn't want anything to do with H, but like I said about my dad who died, he abused my mom physically, sexually, and emotionally. I would yell at him and make him stop at a very young age (5 and 6), but I still love him very much although he was a monster because he loved me and treated me like a princess so although H is a horrible H, maybe he can treat S better.

Have a good weekend and I hope you take the time to relax and not worry because the time flies by before you know it S will be back with you.