Cry a river, build a bridge, and get over it

[newmama]

Romeo, I truly think what you said to your DD about dying and everything else was the right thing! You are right, we will always be there...some people believe our spirits can linger around our children!

IMO I think MAYBE your DD was saying that she wants to love both of you because she might be feeling she is supposed to choose one over the other...HYPOTHETICALLY: like if her mom is talking bad about you, she gets confused. She loves her mommy. If she doesn't agree with what her mommy says about you, then does that mean she doesn't love her mommy as much as you and that she loves you more? Or if she is with you and starts to miss her mommy, does it mean that she doesn't love you as much as her mommy?

I think that when/if S says that stuff to me, I will tell him "S, we both love you and I you can love us BOTH! I WANT YOU to love your daddy! You can love me AND you can love your daddy! It makes me happy if you love us both!" or something like that.

OK and about the legal stuff...I am not weighing in because it is over my head. The others seem to have better insight and knowledge about the legal stuff.