cheated on, lied to, and now I am moving on

[newmama]

He was just so smooth with the whole thing and had an explanation all ready like always. For a little bit tonight I 2nd guessed going to the L because this is it, but although this nagging feeling keeps coming, I know that he is lying, and even if his story was true, why is he letting her borrow his credit card when he wouldn't let our mutual friends borrow movies. Plus that still effects me because if something happens I am liable for that debt. I am not paying for anything for her. However I know it was a lie to cover his butt because that is what he does, and he knows I have no way of knowing what actually happened.

YOU KNOW 100% that he is lying and you are completely correct on all accounts.

just don't know when I should tell him I am filing. Do I tell him at all or just have him be served? What is the protocol?

IMO, you file first. Then you can warn him that he will be served...will you serve him or do you want your L to pay for someone else to serve him? What is best for your sitch?

I just know that in my case, stbxh filed a month before he actually served me the papers. So I definitely think that you should fully file so that it isn't an empty threat and so that you can't be talked out of it. You know what? Honestly-- filing does not mean it is over. By any means....I mean if you file, it does not mean that the divorce has to go through!