Why are you taking his sexual/libido probems personally, as if it has something to do with your attractiveness and desireability. Isn't this a problem that has been there all along, no matter what the state of your R?
Yeah, so he can write a good letter to a "virtual" ow, but he wasn't exactly having mad, passionate sex with her!
I'm not trying to knock your old man in any way, in fact it's easy to see why you love him (based on all of your descriptions). He sounds like a wonderful guy. He also sounds like he has a serious sexual dysfunction, sortof like...well is there such a thing as sexual annorexia?
I understand you trying to make it about you. I initially dealt with H's impotancy in the same way. Believe me, I told myself every crappy thing in the book: ...He's not attracted to me anymore ...I'm too old ...I'm not desirable ...He wants someone else ...He wants someone new
blah, blah, blah
Anyway, when he had an A, I thought that confirmed the above suspicions...until I found out that the problem was even MORE severe with OW.
It wasn't until we really called a spade a spade and recognized it as a serious problem in our M that he/we took constructive action.
{{{Shiny}}} I'm so sorry. I KNOW how such a thing can f with your head!
