Is the man I used to know re-emerging?

[MHL]

GAG,

I like the squirrel analogy because when I think of how a squirrel moves it is very much our MLC spouses. (Mach or Jack or both have used it before) When a squirrel is moving towards something it does not move in a straight line, it is skittish. Sometimes moving right then left, sometimes they turn around and hop back two steps then back the other way, basically all over the map, right? You scare that squirrel, it hauls a$$ in a straight line, running back up into the nearest tree. Is this not how our MLC spouses move?

Reconnection Vs. Touch and Go, this frustrates the h@ll out of me. I have been thinking about this for a while and have come to the conclusion that they are doing both at the same time. In the reconnection thread ( http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=190969&page=1 )

it says that they reconnect with family first, then friends, then the children and then finally the spouse. I think that it is possible for the MLCer to be reconnecting with say the family or friends but is doing touch and go's with the LBS.

With my W I think that she is starting a reconnection with our friends and kids but the contact with me is still touch and go. As stated in the resources they can be experiencing the stages in any order and obviously transitioning from one to another may exhibit behaviors from both simultaneously.

Who knows what the future has in store for any of us. I think the key here is to live your life and be happy. If you can do that and only that for now, maybe everything else will fall into place.

So is it too late for me to join the cocktail party???

Upside,
Great Advice!!!!

The cocktail party is every Thursday Night at 7pm. I call it "Little Friday". It is something I have done for years actually and there is a story. To get the story go to the thread that Eric created called "Little Friday" and on the first or second page it explains the history.

Cheers