The problem with setting a date, Khud, is that it's like telling the terrorists the date that you're going to pull the troops out -- they'll just wait you out.
If you give a wayward spouse a deadline, saying "I'll give this until October 31st," then guess what -- you just gave your tacit approval for their waywardness, and they will take it an RUN with it, right up until Oct. 30th, at which point they will PROMISE YOU THE MOON AND THE STARS AND BEG YOU TO TAKE THEM BACK (or, they'll throw you juuuust enough of a "bone" on that date to keep your plate spinning on their stick).
Deadlines are good if they're INTERNAL -- for YOU. Do NOT communicate them to a wayward spouse.
