Exposed finally,,limbo land

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The BK lawyer was really cool and knowledgeable, been doing it for 35 years. Basically, there is a good chance we make too much money for a chapter 7 right now, but we won’t know for sure until we finish a financial questionnaire and turn it in. Whatever I find out I will let you all know, and puppy, I will try and get you as much info as I can as it becomes available.

My new IC I found through my church is Christian and very pro marriage (I know, imagine that). He feels that a true heartfelt apology from me to W about the things that might have led up to her discomfort in the M, including specifics, how they effected W, and changes that are being made, as well as truthful dedication to those changes will be necessary for my mental and emotional health. Part of the whole 12 step detachment. But also to make sure that I leave it at that and do not go anywhere near the whole,” Sooo, let’s see about getting back together.” But rather to leave it at,” Our future I leave in God’s hands”. (or something close).

So now I need to figure out the things that were dissatisfying in the M. IC asked what W complained about leading up to this. She didn’t say much. I do know that she felt neglected and taken for granted. Not real sure of other things. I think most M have a lot of similarities, so if you folks can think of any common things I might need to consider, I would like to hear them.

I am not taking any blame for the A, yet I am not going to bring it up either. If she brings it up, I will do what I can to change subject back to M. But, if she tries to twist my apology etc into something she can blame me for the A, then I will defend the fact that those were her decisions, and I will not own any part of the A.