Wow.......I told our counsler I made the apt with a pastor (My counsler is a Christian base counsler, but not a bible thumper, if that makes since) and he told me not to take my wife today! He said I pressured her to go and that if I didnt stop I would lose. He said she will go when she is ready. He told me not to discuss anything with her unless she brings it up, anything. So I called and left her a message that I was going by myself and I was sorry for pressuring her and I needed it to help me become a better husband and that when we get to that point and she wants to go that the Pastor would see us at anytime. I know she knows the counsler told me to do that but she also knows it kills me to do that because I wanted her to speak to him for about a year.
