Thanks again everybody for all the support. Opt - thanks for that link, it led me to a great web site where I have already received some good input from some parents on the bb there.
D seemed to have an okay day yesterday. She ate half a bagel with butter for breakfast - complained, but ate it - and said she was feeling really down at school but then she went to her locker and one of her friends had put a gift of a little stuffed dog in it, with a really sweeT note about how they were all there for her. Thank god she has such great friends
She appeared to eat the pasta salad I left for her in the afternoon - unfortunately, I had to go to an appointment with her brother so I wasn't there to see it, but all the signs (dirty plate, little bit of pasta left in the fridge) looked good. H and I had to go out to dinner (meeting with some co-volunteers on a charity event). We invited her to go with us (favorite Mexican restaurant) - she declined but asked us to bring something home for her. When we got home at 7:30 she ate all of the burrito we brought her while doing her homework and chatting with us - no resistance. I am relieved at least to be getting some calories into her and that she seems to be cooperating. I am fully aware how sneaky kids with this disease can be, though, so I am careful not to take things at face value.
Today I need to interview some therapists. Wish me luck.