QS is there any vendictiveness involved here? Your initial argument was simply that you wanted to keep "in the know" so to speak to ensure she didn't plot against you and the house... This is looking like something else entirely now..
Not judging, I just want you to be fully commiteed to the consequences before you make your choices...
If you get caught being vendictive then all your work to appear like the mature adult during your divorce is out the window... if you are ok with that I understand... I just am seeing you taking some daring steps above.. or maybe its just DLS.. I dunno
