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husband i no longer choose to be married to a man who does not attend marriage counseling.

i no longer want to be married to a man who violates his marriage vows and lives as if he were single.
Sent this to h

I no longer want to be married to a man who is incapable of being a good lawful role model for our children.

I no longer choose to bemarried to a man who abandones his family and treats them as we do not exist who puts his needs before his wife's and children's.

I no longer want to be married to a man who would allow his wife and children to go without the basic neccities.

H the next pieces of information have been carefully thought out and are in the best interests of the children. I’m sure you will agree that they come first and foremost in any and all situations. Granted some of the things both you and I must do for them may cause us some inconvenience, juggling schedules, and what have you, but they have suffered long enough.
The goal here is to maintain d and s's lifestyle, schedule just as if we were together. They do not need to get the short end of the stick since you chose to abandoned this family.

Our children will no longer be exposed to riding the bus system. It is not in their best interests.

As their father you will arrive at our home no later than 6:00AM Monday - Friday, excluding holidays, so I can catch the 6:30 bus to work. You will care for the children until both d and s have breakfast in their home, are bathed-if needed, dressed, and ready to go. After they are ready you will transport them with their car seats (until you purchase new approved car seats & submit a copy of the receipt to me)to your home in which they will remain in your sole care until you are required to work.
Any vehicle they are transported in will have state mandated insurance and the driver will have a valid driver's license. If you are unable or unwilling to obtain insurance, there are options available, we as their parents need to work together on it for their safety, well being, being good lawful role models for our children.
Option 1-you obtain state mandated provable insurance for the truck and occupants in your household
Option 2 – Truck transferred to my name and I place insurance on it for all drivers in my home
Option 3- unable to discuss at this time
You will need to be available over the next few weeks, to transport s to my work so I can feed him on demand since he is a breast fed baby who has rejected the bottle. Every three hours he must eat 4-7 ounces of breast milk, failure to do so will be harmful for his growth and cause health problems and he may fail to thrive.
Every 3 hours I will get an update as to his eating habits via telephone call to -. Every 1-2 hours s will have his diaper visibly checked to insure he is not wet or soiled his diaper. You and your mother will be provided documentation to fill out when he poops and pees along with the date and time.
After my work day I will need to be picked up to prevent and to reduce the time the children have away from me and transported to our home. To ensure they are returned to their home to eat dinner, bathe if necessary, complete our bed time routines, do chores, etc.
Remember the goal here have the least amount of disruption to their lifestyle, schedule, way of life consistent with what they would have grown up in had you not abandoned us; to give our children consistency, a routine and schedules.
Financial:

h you as THE NON-CUSTODIAL parent, thinks that:

If I don’t get what I want from the custodial parent, it’s ok to withhold a support payment.

Sorry, but this is not OK. It is a privilege and a responsibility to take care of your child’s emotional and financial needs. Re: http://familysupportcenter.maricopa.gov/tiesandknots/PQ.html
Based upon state child support guidelines our adjusted gross income is well over $Xamount , and for 2 children to be raised by both parents as if we were together, the cost to raise them is $x amount, that amount is based upon a % and does not include cost of healthcare. A fair amount for you to pay is $200 a week, to be paid each Monday via deposit into a bank account.
$800 total.
-160 (I directly pay your mother weekly $40) -$250 health care which I pay directly) which leaves only $x amount that you are actually paying for child support to me. That is a deal. If we went to court it would be more.

this is h's response:

Well les see a change go head and gave me a acc# so I will dipotsit in to your bank. I work agains you case you the same to me. So let's star with that. Were are my kids went you go to work or go out? What time do they go to bed what time do they eat and what do they eat? May be you can send me a pic off them thx you....

what the heck do i respond with?