I like what OT said above..."a divorce settlement isn't fair until both people feel screwed."
I think there's some truth to that, at least for people who aren't mega-wealthy. Get the absolute best financial settlement that you can...period...and don't look at that as being 'punishing' to STBXW.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
