Hey guys, Just want to get some thoughts. If W and I aren't really talking do I bring up the mediation again? Or do I just wait to see what happens in the next few days/weeks as while S is away we hardly talk at all? I’m just not sure where we stand right now as our last argument 3 weeks ago when we were fighting she was just going to use her lawyer and I said I would use mine. Then when we were calm and just talking on the phone she said she wanted to hear what I had to say. (Maybe it’s just a lot of crap)!! However it would be a few hundred vs. a few thousand for both of us, and she thinks I’m out to screw her!!
As much as this sucks this was her choice to throw in the towel, just like it was her choice to have the affair.
I just don’t think we have done everything in our M and feel she will have great regret for not trying after it's all said and done. (That’s just how I feel).
Who knows any more just trying to keep busy, but just tend to stress out more when trying to do to much!!I think when S comes back I will take a few days with him and go to the Outer Banks and relax!!
Well Thanks Guys have to study for last midterm talk later
Hey guys, The past few days have been rougher than usual with school, work, S being gone, and the fact thinking of our anniversary coming up in a month(I know shouldn’t and stupid).
As it’s hard I had great plans as we were both working on our M last year & were in a much happier spot. I was going to do something great for this year!! (How quickly things change).
I’m just tired of coming home to an empty place all the time. Yes going out with the guys, going to the gym, & doing things to keep busy has been good for me. However I just feel so lost right now and I don’t know if any of my efforts are working. We have almost no contact unless it’s about S.
Well I’m doing my best and someday I think my W will see that. I just hope it won’t be too late, but it aint over till it’s over.
The only thing that seems to help is Hope; with Hope it gets me thru the day, and gets me through the tough nights as well. I guess it’s like the Hope I had when my mom told me she had stage 3 colon cancer when I was younger and she said she would be fine. Well it’s been over 15 yrs. later and she is fine.
Well off to the Gym and then trying to finish up my midterm as its due Sat. Talk later Hope
Hope, you sound like you're expecting your GAL and 180s to "work" towards bringing her back. Do them because you like them, because they are good for you, otherwise when you hit a rough spot, you'll stop.
Try a million different things. Order different things for dinner. Read a book that you'd never in a million years choose. Watch a different type of movie. Really explore life while you go through this. There's a lot of fun stuff that just gets lost when you're in a healthy relationship, much less the hell you're going through.
Hey pinhead, Thanks and I'am doing new and different things for myself I guess I've just been in a rut in the past few days, but almost done with midterms. It also just sucks not knowing what our sisuation with the seperation/D, or mediation as were not talking(maybe its good) I just dont want to get blind sided have to watch my back.
I don't believe in being passive anymore. I'm going to lead my family, even if that means I initiate the separation. I think I can do that without having a huge confrontation, and our goal is mediation. We can't afford lawyers and are both scared of what would happen if we "lawyered up."
But waiting on her to make the moves is just booking a long stay in the Limbo Hotel. And room service is really crappy there.
I know limbo hotel sucks. Hope to think better when Midterms are done!!! Just stressing now and work has been super busy for me oh well. Should be on track on Sunday.. Talk later
Preview Hey guys, Just got off the phone with S & talked to mother-in-law as well ( a little awkward, but we get along. She told me she was making plans with my mom to see S. Then called sister-in-law to wish niece a happy b-day.. Then she fills me in on family party I missed.. Anyway had to get back to work.
We'll just rambling, but was hopng to get some thoughts on this that just makes me wonder and it's probbly nothing.. when wife and I talked on the phone a month a go when she said why would I still want her after all she had put me through( I just don't get) or when I later asked if she had any doubts? W said yes but we would probbly be here in a few years again!! I know shouldn't have talked about us, but did.. Well the good news is I got an a on one of my miterms & talked to my S today
Grats on the grade. That's worth at least one beer tonight! And any time you can talk with or see your S is fantastic.
I'm going to call my FIL tonight to talk to my two Ds. This is going to be the first time that I've talked to him since he learned from W about us. I'm pretty well decided on what I'm going to say, since I have/had a great R with him.
"D, I just wanted to say that you've been the best FIL a man could have asked for, and I'm glad to have been a part of your life. You know your daughter is stubborn, but if she ever wants to reconcile, and is too afraid, give her a fatherly push, would you?"
I hate the fact that I'm going to lose a whole 'nuther family through her selfishness. People I've spent 13 years with, sharing everything. Makes me hate her...
I hate the fact that I'm going to lose a whole 'nuther family through her selfishness. People I've spent 13 years with, sharing everything. Makes me hate her...
I am pretty sure you won't have to try too hard to find somebody else who will cheat on you and treat you like crap if that's what you want.
Peace.
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