I'm trying. And its harder to GAL in this new town where I don't know anyone.
This past week he was calling me 2-3x a day. Which he hasn't done in months. Even asking about the baby. Now today its this.
Then he says you know its over so why do I have to keep telling you? What can't you just understand it?!
Just looking at these last two separate statements says your husband is confused. This confusion is part of the depression and lasts a long time. The pain you feel is normal and you would not be here if it did not hurt.
Hold it together for now. Keep some of that communication to a minimum. It won't be healthy for you to engage in that type of activity.
You are not nuts. The destruction I see from your H is showing me he is nuts. Two D's at home with a baby on the way and behaving the way he is is not normal. If this is not the H you had a couple several years ago then something has changed and it sure looks like he is trying to run. MLC'rs want to run from responsibilities. All responsibilities. You have to be the rock through this difficult time. It is his drama right now. You cannot afford to participate in it. Your D's cannot afford for you to participate in it. So Please, Please, Let him go for now and realize you don't want him if he is like this right now anyway. Once you can do that, you will get some calm in your self and focus on YOU and your D's. This will not stay this way. He will flip back and forth again and again. If you fight this with him, he will not flip back enough and you will not gain what you need to deal with the future with him or without him. I really feel for you now cause I have been through a lot of this. I know how painful it is. You have the tools and people to help you get through so use them.
