2gthr,
You wrote:

Then he says you know its over so why do I have to keep telling you? What can't you just understand it?!

I have heard similar from my wife this last April. Now is the
time for you to dig deep for patience. Get off of the "he said this
now I will answer him with this" bus. He does not deserve any answer from you when he talks like this. He is fighting against himself big time here.