Telling me over and over to dump the bitch isnt what I was lead to believe this website was about.
Now, who said that?
People said "you need to establish boundaries" first and foremost. And boundaries don't mean squat if you don't enforce them.
So... boundary: I will not live in an open marriage.
If she doesn't respect that boundary, you have to ask her to leave and possibly divorce.
It's simple.
The rest is standard DB stuff.
I think the first five or six responses were essentially dump her. I kept saying okay guys, I get it, but I need to at least try here.
I have already set the no open marriage boundary. It is why she is acting out right now. I am simply trying to go about my own reactions to what she is currently doing differently.
I understand her need to grieve and mourn and act like a child right now. I took away her sex toy. I just feel very very strongly that there is no way in hell I am willing to settle for what she has presented to me, a loving, yet completely sexless, affectionless marriage for the rest of my life. That feels wrong and I will not live my life like her roommate.
What I hoped to get here was advise on how to deal with that in the short term while letting time pass and seeing if we could get our marriage back on track.
