Oh, and I know there are other men in the picture now. She told me about two of them. That was the whole point of her conversation the other morning. She realized she doesn't want to deal with this crap any more, she just wants to live, and she's gotten interest from a couple guys. She said doesn't see much happening, but she wants to take the opportunity to live with no obligation for a while, and if she chooses to spend time with someone else, she doesn't want to feel like she's doing something wrong. Hence the whole "let's date other people" proposal.
I'm torn. I myself even said a while back to her mother, while I was dating some other women, and appreciating the value it was giving me, I said "If W really wants to figure out what she wants in life, she shouldn't be all obsessed with OM on the other side of the world, she should date some other people here for a while." I actually get it. I agree with Gucci and others here, if she was FEELING it for me, she'd have no interest in dating others. A few months ago she was FEELING it for me, after she transferred the responsibility of being her savior from OM to me, but deep down she knows she can't do that any more. That's always how her FEELINGS for men manifested themselves, and she's trying to grow past that. I give her credit for trying to face that demon, but we obviously can't be married while she's doing it, if dating other men is part of it. So that'll be the sacrifice she'll need to make.
