Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gr8 day 2B alive]

thanks pinhead

There's nothing wrong with being fair and kind; just be aware of why you're trying to be fair

I am being fair b/c I don't want my kids to suffer for their mothers poor decisions.

They are my numero uno concern. They deserve the best.

[Vulcanized]

Hey Gr8,

Nope, don't work at any of them. Just places that I like for one reason or another.

Good luck!

[gr8 day 2B alive]

journal entry

Emailed W Sunday night about taking kids for the full weekend once a month so we both could enjoy a long weekend for ourselves.

She did email me back on this and agreed. Then she added stuff about the kids clothes she bought for them and she wanted them back. I replied back no problem, I'll have them all ready for you when I drop them off on Wednesday.

No email back about finances for the house yet. MAybe next week after she talks to her "people"

Mean while last night when W called to say goodnight to the kids, D5 came into the kitchen where I was and asked if I wanted to talk to mommy. I simple said no thank you.

After she was done talking D5 got upset b/c she really wishes the two of us would get back together.

I told D5 that it's not going to happen. See teared up So I comforted her by saying my and mommoy aren't happy together.

I asked D5 you want us to be happy right? She said yes.
So I said were not happy together.
I then added we both love you very much and to enjoy the time she has when she's with us.

I told her I will always be here for her, then we played.

It's so hard to see your kids go through this.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Puppy and regulars to my sitch, any thoughts on the following?

After rereading my sitch over the past two months it made me think about what newmamma wrote. Back in June she made a statement:

You could always say "I want you to know that I really did want to work on our marriage and was hoping we would be reuniting instead of divorcing." and see what she says, too!

Would making this statement mean anything to her?


A small part of me wants to reconcile, envisioning a haapy M.
Most of me says things are irrepairable.

I think I'm feeling this way today b/c of waht happened to D5 last night.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

J.E.

W contacted me about health insurnce. I am currently on her policy and she asked me if I had coverage at work.
I told her I currently do not and I was under the impression I would remain on hers until I legally couldn't.

No interaction with W except for the kids and when she had something to discuss. Been dark for three months.

No word about the house yet from her.

Moving forward, and she has been set free.

Looking forward to me time this weekend.

[pinhead]

Gr8,

I wouldn't make a statement like that. Your W knows where you stand. It's up to her to make the decision to try and reconcile. As hard as it is on your children, remember that your love, freely given to them, is what will make them happiest.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

Thanks for the response pinhead.

I know it will be her own free decision if she would want to work on M.

I have said in prior posts that I haven't seen any changes in her and I would really have to think about if I wanted to "take her back".

As for now I will continue moving forward with no contact, if she wants to change things it will be up to her to make to move.

We'll cross that bridge whenif we get to it.

I will continue doing my part moving towards D.
No regrets

[Vulcanized]

Puppy and regulars to my sitch, any thoughts on the following?

After rereading my sitch over the past two months it made me think about what newmamma wrote. Back in June she made a statement:

You could always say "I want you to know that I really did want to work on our marriage and was hoping we would be reuniting instead of divorcing." and see what she says, too!

Would making this statement mean anything to her?

Hey Gr8,

I don't think that saying that or anything similar is a great idea at the moment. Perhaps if W was showing some sort of interest in R, then yes.

A small part of me wants to reconcile, envisioning a haapy M.
Most of me says things are irrepairable.

I think I'm feeling this way today b/c of waht happened to D5 last night.

I know what you mean. The best bit of advice I got on that was this: "I'll think about that if/when I get there". Part of me what to R w/H, part of me thinks it's utterly impossible. So, for now, moratorium on the subject.

[gr8 day 2B alive]

So, for now, moratorium on the subject

Percisely.

It must have D5 that made me think about saying something.

Moving forward(still), being happy and enjoying life.

Tonight live band and a few cold ones on the water front.

No response yet about the house, I'll cross that bridge when she responds. Until then.....giddy on up and giddy on out.

[mza8]

Hey Gr8. Checking in.

You could always say "I want you to know that I really did want to work on our marriage and was hoping we would be reuniting instead of divorcing." and see what she says, too!

I said something similar to my W earlier this week per Rob's advice. I basically told her that she knows how I feel about her, that I would be there if she ever wanted to talk and that I just want her to be happy regardless of what happens to us. It was sort of my way of telling her I'm letting her go. She thanked me for the kind message. Feel like I finally made it about her instead of about me.

Strange that your W still has not gotten back to you about your house.

Have a good time tonight and have a cold one for me.