The problem is while I have a tremendous amount of respect for him, he is being utterly hurtful and disrespectful to me and I guess I am just a weak person that I tolerate it, that or deep down I really believe that he will stop this and come to his senses. I believe in him...and I always have. So I see both sides to this issue.
Don't feel "weak." You love him and married him and created a life with him. It's natural to feel the way you do.