So last night I went out with a guy from work that has gone through this and reconciled with his W, but it took a long time (as you have all told me) and he wasn't really sure he wanted to get back in at first. Said he was having a good time being single. He had a lot of good advice, similar to what I am hearing here.
After starting at a little hole in the wall place, we went to blondie's bar, but she was already done for the day and gone. Had a couple drinks, ate dinner and went home.
Kids were having a sleepover and wanted me to build a fire, so I did. Mosquitoes were AWFUL, but the cutter managed to beat them back and they disappeared after a while.
D had gotten out 5 chairs, but there were 6 of us, so I went and got another one. Had to go to the garage for a cushion and when I came back, W was sitting in the chair with no cushion, right next to the one I had been in that had cushions. I said why are you in the chair with no cushion, while putting the cushion in her chair. She just said thanks.
Meanwhile, the kids are burning marshmallows and eating chocolate. They didn't want to bother with the graham crackers!
W and I didn't talk much, but when she would go in the house for a beer, she always brought me one too, which was nice of her.
Nothing too exciting, but just thought I would share. I would guess this is probably pretty typical.....
