New to this Community seeking advice

[MichelleLT]

Question: is she wearing hers?

I stubbornly kept mine on for months. Even after I started DBing.

But his was off before he moved out.

When I got to the point where we were rebuilding our friendship, I became self-conscious of the fact that I was still wearing my rings. Sending the message that I was still hoping and still following the vows that he no longer was.

I think wearing your ring when the other person is not sends non-verbal signals that you are still clinging, when they notice they usually feel pressured. My XH did.

So I started easing out of wearing them by moving them to my right hand before I saw him. Then slowly stopped wearing them altogether.

BUT, I was dealing with someone in an active A. Someone who would ask for no specific changes, whose whims and moods were a moving target. Whose concerns changed the moment I tried to address the latest thing I had done wrong. He didn't want me to change, he just wanted OW.

Your W left for very specific reasons which you have addressed. She did not leave because of an A. So your situation is very different in that respect.

Keep that in mind when you make your decision.