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Long story short:
H calls D wanting me to call him @ lunch.
Chewed Xanax dry on way to D's house
Wanted me to come to Ft. Smith to sign papers so he could buy
property, basically a waiver saying I would make no legal
claim on it.
Said he was injured in accident when rear ended by lady
going 50 mph. Reminded him that Karma Bus was a bitch.
Told him I would call him back this evening after I spoke to
my lawyer.
Lawyer was out of office, so I called USAA, the Lender he was going through & who we have used several times in the past.

Made all the required identifications, but when they got to my name, dob and last 4 digits of SS#, they paused. Said that wasn't the SS# they had. I asked them what they had. They replied they couldn't tell me, but perhaps I knew the secret password. No Idea. How about if I give you the phone clue to the secret password. What's that. "MY GAL" ( my H has never said GAL in his life) Oh, I reply, Vickie. Correct for $200. Apparently, she went into our accounts on line and changed my social security number to hers, along with the password.

Including the HughesNet Incident last week, this makes 3 incidents of identity theft.

Filed reports with Hughes Net, Union Bank, USAA, and CyberCops.

Called H and told him he needed to save his money to bail out the bitch. Told him I wouldn't sign anything to put him out if he was on fire. "ARE WE CLEAR", I asked. Yes, he says. Good-bye

I believe now would be the perfect time to go from dark to PITCH BLACK. Anyone agree?
Any legal eagles out there?

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HOLY CRAP! Your H is so fogged up he doesn't remember that you're not stupid. Did they really think you wouldn't check into that???

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He's been trying to call me all evening since I called him. I finally had to turn off the phone. He finally called D and told her that he "checked those places and they didn't know what I was talking about". B@LLSH$T. The bank wasn't even open by that time. He finally texted D that I had better not go to the Prosecuting Attorney or there could be slander.

I'm shaking in my Buster Browns. He did actually seemed surprised. I think he asked her and she, of course, lied her ass off. He's trying to protect her. AND, as a means of getting me to sign those papers, he offered to give his GI College Benefits to our D. He said he would lose them in about a week.

I told him that was between him and his D, that it was insulting to use it as a tool between me and him. If he didn't care anymore about her getting an education than to lose them out of spite, F##k Him.

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Punkin,

First, until you are D'ed, you have some potential rights to anything and everything that your H does with your marital assets. I would have refused to sign anything giving up those rights from the get go.

That said, good for you to contact the lender and discover the identity theft. Just one question -- is it possible that your H changed the SS# and pw?

What an a$$!


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One, he never managed his way around the computer paying bills, had neither idea or interest. Two, "MY GAL"??? That is the LAST clue he would ever come up with, and the password/answer: Vickie.
She did this. He may have given her the passwords/ID's to get into them, but she did this. He also had to give her the number to my savings account, which he got before he left, knowing that his name was not on it in any form.

He knows his butt is up a creek without a paddle on this one. I told him God help her if the IP address came back to a Federal Computer on the base. I wasn't going to do so, but tomorrow I'm going to call the Arkansas Army Inspector General's Office and see where my complaint against the two of them stand. He's being retired, no questions, but she can be FIRED.

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Karma is a biotch. They deserve whatever they get.

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I realize I am very angry right now, but at this point I cannot see myself standing for anything other than my family and myself. No man who would have part in this kind of treachery to me after all these years is worth standing for.

Still seething.

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Originally Posted By: Punkin
Still seething.


Pun

Anger is a powerful emotion.

How does it feel?

Does it serve you?

Your H is fighting you.

Fighting you on the divorce.

Fighting you that you are standing

Fighting his guilt

Fighting his demons

Fighting himself.

He is at war Pun.

Dig deep down inside Pun and ask yourself

How would I like to be loved?

Only when I am peaceful and not scared and confused?

Or

When I am so scared I have lost myself?

When do you need love the most?

Don't we enter this life with this question?

Will I ever find someone who loves me that much?

What does unconditional love mean?

How can you express to him now that you still have the love you had for him when he was the H you knew?

You answer that question Pun and your anger will not have power over you.

We do not die from a snake bite

We die from the poison.


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TG,

I know what you are saying is true, but she is doing all this crap behind his back, of this I am sure, and he is believing every word she says. Identity theft is serious business and how can I let her get away with it in the name of love for a man who is treating me like s@@t. She could seriously mess up my credit, which I have worked very hard through the years to build and sustain, as I did his.

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Protect yourself legally, financially and emotionally and any other way that you may be "injured"

I am not saying lay down on the tracks for him.

But

You can do all the above without the anger when you choose that path.

He and OW are doing what they think is best for them.

Do what's best for you.

If your anger is what is serving you as the "best" for you...

Then let it hold sway over you.

This moment right now is when you decide what to do with it.

Don't confuse the love I talk about with weakness...

It is the most powerful thing you can EVER wield in this battle

No one can break that down when you decide to hold on to it.

You must though

Let go of his choices as something he is doing TO you.

he is doing it to himself.

Protect yourself always. I would never advise otherwise.


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