So I guess I dont need to ask her to calm down and give it time anymore? She said she wouldnt give me a answer either way last night after earlier that day saying she was pretty much done. At least she didnt say no, right? ha ha Its hard to know what she means and doesnt mean because when she gets mad or fustrated she will say anything. I guess today when we go see the pastor I will get a idea of what shes thinking today. Im not sure this move will do anything I hope it somehow doesnt make it worse, but I feel in my heart we should go. Ive tried to get back in church the last several months but her job wont let us. I found a church that has the hours to support us, but she is not ready. I didnt find that church until after the affair. She feels God doesnt answers her prayers and is just not interested. But this guy is a people person. He is very positive guy. I just want her to her more encourging words, shes doesnt get that from alot of folks. Again anything that might convience her to give it more time, thats all. She said last night that if this went a year and didnt work I would blame her for wasting a year of my life. I said no, a year of my life is worth the chance of keeping the family together.

Last edited by LeeSC; 07/30/10 03:11 PM.

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