This is totally OFF the subject but I think an affair takes all of the innocence out of the marriage, this is an issue that I have been dealing with. This woman KNEW I adored my h and that we had a ton of fun together(even though my H is saying we never did) She knew my deepest issues with him and she played on that. Therefore, it is easier for me to blame her because I dont care what happens to her and I dont care about her as a person because I think she is a cold and heartless person that lacks any moral fiber. Therefore, I agree, deep down in my heart I am so deeply hurt that this man that I love could do this to me and as much as I want to blame him it is easier for me to forgive him and try to get past this. The problem is while I have a tremendous amount of respect for him, he is being utterly hurtful and disrespectful to me and I guess I am just a weak person that I tolerate it, that or deep down I really believe that he will stop this and come to his senses. I believe in him...and I always have. So I see both sides to this issue.
