Stay busy John. If you need to, call a friend, or use IM etc. I'm literally counting the hours til my daughters are home. And best of all, my W works on Sunday when they return, so I'll have them all to myself! God I love my girls.
You could check out the MLC posts and see if any of those ring true for you. I hope that isn't it as from what I've read it can take years to resolve. I don't think I would have that kind of patience.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
It just doesn't seem to fit the MLC pattern to me. She has been unhappy for a long time, but why now? Just because I asked her if she was happy? I don't buy that.
As Puppy once said, WAS don't leave unless they have a soft cushion to land on. My WAS knows that financially she's going to have it really tough; she'll lose quality time with our two daughters, she'll have the stigma of breaking her vows/marriage with friends and family and church. She'll be alone and lonely for the first time in 13 years.
Or will she?
Everyone who knows her, and knows of our sitch says they can't imagine an OM. Well, I can. I imagine it every night.
I have no proof. I have no corroborating intel.
But I have my instinct. And in addition, my logic. A mother of two young daughters, living very comfortably, with a husband who loves her (albeit imperfectly) doesn't just up and throw it all away.
So I'm sure that when the dust settles, and she's moved out, I'll find out who the OM is.
Just a thought for you - ask your lawyer for your state's versions of the marital agreement and parenting agreement forms. Maybe if she sees that she will have to alternate holidays, vacations, etc with the girls and how the assets will be affected it may impact her thought process. It certainly did mine. It made me realize that was absolutely not what I wanted if there was any other way (even though I wasn't the one that intiated the D path I had certainly considered it numerous times). Seeing it in black and white was really a kick to the stomach for me.
He: WAH Me: LBW Precious: DD
~ I'm grateful for every day I have to improve the way I relate.
I need some advice from those familiar with gathering intel on potential EA/PA. I've been pretty thorough so far, checking her FB, her email, her old phone etc. Nothing. She's not very tech savvy, so I'm pretty sure there's nothing electronic. Yet if she's having an EA/PA with her boss, well they wouldn't need much communication since she sees him almost daily.
Is using a voice activated recorder or maybe a GPS phone really a good idea? The only free time she would have is early in the morning when she goes to work out, but they could be having a rendezvous before, during or after. She leaves at 5 to work out, and usually doesn't start work until 7 (8 lately). So plenty of time for hanky panky.
I thought about putting the recorder under her car seat, hoping to catch some incriminating conversations.
Otherwise I thought of just confronting her when she returns this weekend. If I spring it on her suddenly, I might be able to tell if she's lying. But I wouldn't have any evidence to use to expose her.
My mc told me what was going on then we went home for a quick visit and on the way back home on the plan I watched her type the code to her iPhone. So when we landed and got back home. I brought in our luggage and she forgot her phone. So I saw one email and that was it how stupid I felt. I denied everything thinking she would never do that, I was furious & left the house that night. Felt bad for our S now I'm in limbo land and were separated. W telling me she has had nc since,.
