Long Distance Issues.....Possible WAW

[Dazed&Confused]

oh I missed that part about not being active. Regardless, most divorces can take over 2 years to settle if both parties dont agree. You can use the fact that you are overseas for your attorney to tell a judge to hold off. IN the mean time let her do all the work and go dark.

my .02

I realize that I can drag it out if I want, but I am afraid that she will use it against me when it comes to the kids. She said last night that she is willing to do a 50/50 shared custody. Is not looking for anything in return other than the minivan, and some money monthly to help out with the kids. That she wants to do it on her own!

She has been looking at apartments. I do not want my kids to have to spend half of their time in a small 2br apt! But I have to keep reminding myself that if it happens, it will her decision. It almost like she is trying prove something to herself.

It's just hard to figure out what is best for me and my kids at this point. I know the best thing would be for me and my wife to keep our family whole.

The next best thing would be for me to get shared custody with the wife, and let her go live her wild dreams out.

My absolute worse case senario would be to lose her, lose the shared custody, half of everything that I have worked my short life for, just to drag my feet and make it not easy for her.

I am just petrifed at the thought of only seeing my kids every other weekend. I guess that is where the lawyer comes in. I am going to talk with one and find out what my options are and likelyhood of me getting this kind of deal in court.

If it is a good shot, then I have nothing to lose. If he/she thinks its a great deal, then I will take it, and wish her all of the luck in the world with her new man. I will get something put in about not bringing an new person around the kids for a set time though.

Hope this clarifies where I am at right now. And again, you guys have been lifesavers for me. I just have to figure out a way to hide my tears. I don't think my alergy excuse is going to last that much longer! (and to think I was in the Marine Corps, they would revoke my membership if they saw me right now.)