She's feeling guilty, confused, wants to escape, wants to avoid anything that involves working on the R. Classic, classic WAS. She's addicted to her infidelity, the high she got when she was around the OM. Withdrawal is kicking in, and I'm sure the OM isn't helping matters.
You need to define clear, crystal clear boundaries, and implement a real transparency plan to make sure that the affair is done, and stays done.
