Morning!
Thank you all for your wishes,and I would like you to know that MIL passing was such a blessing. A friend of mine describes her (then) 5 yr old, upon being told that a family member was passing, responded," ______ is going to meet Jesus!" made into a song and skipping down the hospital hall. That is how the whole funeral felt.
God is truly driving this car I am a passenger in. TJ drove 3 daughters and myself back to the bachelor pad. No son in laws, they opted out on airfare rates. So it was just our nuclear family again, in the car for an hour +. TJ and I exchanged knowing glances. I know God provided this family time. Probably never happen again. We did not take it for granted.

I am loved and supported by TJ's family and extended family.
I have learned to follow Snodderly's advice: don't seek the answers by questions and snooping, let the answers fall in your lap. I have learned: TJ has told extended family that we are dating, and we have bought a house together.
He doesn't care what eldest brother thinks of all this.
He wanted me next to him.
He told people we are retiring down there in a couple of years.
AND his sister, without prompting from me, ask TJ if OW is still in the picture. His response: "She is in the rearview mirror. I have not seen or heard from her for awhile".

He is coming to attend a wedding with me tonite. I thought he was turning around and going back to MI in the morning, but he ask me if I wanted to play golf Sat. afternoon. I guess he is staying!!!!!
I plan on leaving Sunday to return to lake and no internet.
He and D23 will join me for the last week of my 3 week stay.

I have accomplished my goal of putting my family back together again. For the first time, I am not steps ahead of reality with my "wants" for my R with TJ. I have him in my life, and my autonomy. I am exactly where I want to be:


Dating an amazing man.


Bomb 1/06
D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature.
Divorce final October 31, 2008.
OW looks like bad history. Over.
Still hopeful. Baby steps.
In R with my X.