And Pei, it's not in the water, it's in our hearts. It's what we have endured. Giving up, rolling over, not an option in our neck of the woods. Right Eric?
Oh honey, I get it. I just wish someone could bottle it and spread it around. Both of you inspire me. Really inspire me. Ya know, where I come from, it's not an option either, at least not for me. That which doesn't kill me ....
Eric, listen man ... you FEEL. It's who you are. And as Grit pointed out, it's what you do about it, with it, with those feelings, that's really important.
Originally Posted By: Brooklyn
And remember, no one knows what the future holds. Your relationship with your wife today does not necessarily have to look the same in the future. And I am not talking about the marriage. I am talking about two people who share a lifetime of memories and children.
She's right. You don't have a crystal ball. None of us do. What I do know, is that my H and I are going to come out of this friends for the reasons she mentions. That's MY choice. I've taken the high road, chosen to be compassionate and love him unconditionally. He's so conflict avoidant that trying to maintain an animosity filled R with me would cause him great stress, unless I was coming at him from a place of anger and resentment, then he could easily justify it. Three mos ago I did not expect to ever be able to be friends with this man.
Take a deep breath. Feel and release. You are doing very well my friend.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
