Quote: Sorry, but you can't push me into the same category as your ex-H who needed prozac, and cheated on you. I love and respect my H way too much to ever stoop like that.
LD - you are completely misinterpreting what I said. I meant that I worried that if you were unable to see things from your H's POV also, he might be vulnerable to having an affair in the future, when some young thing comes onto him. I want nothing for you but a happy outcome where you can enjoy a loving and sexual R with your H. You stated yourself that he said he was asleep when he started (yes, I understood that he was awake when you woke up). You stated yourself that he was your "knight in shining armour" so I gathered that he was a pretty good guy in other parts of your R. I just hate to see you lose perspective on the pain that he is experiencing by being rejected by you, too.
As for my last post about victims - I wasn't talking about you. I was talking about how, for those of us who have survived infidelity, putting ourselves in our spouses shoes is the key to not getting stuck in a victim mode. I was not referring to you. I was referring to the many people I know in life who never get over the breakdown of their marriages, and how that is a danger for those of us in this part of the forum.
I hadn't planned to mention you again in my thread, I am sorry if you take offense at my too blunt efforts to help, and believe me, I won't waste any more of my time trying.
