Thanks girls... thats good advice, I hadnt thought of that - to tell him I appreciate him sticking up for me over this. Of course I tread carefully as noone should try and come between a mother and her son and as annoying as she is, he has alot of love and guilt all rolled in together and its very hard for him. He is still very angry and upset, he said again last night how angry he is at her but also, how responsible he feels for her since her partner walked out (6 years ago now).
We think his brother has said something, becuase she called last night and was very chatty, but she was gabbling nervously being bright in a brittle way. My BFF advised me to play it cool and stop trying with her.
It made me realise that ever since we got back together I have been super nice to her and ignored all the coldness and rudeness and pointed remarks, because I so desperately wanted her to love me again. How sad. Also, I was terrified last year that if anyone close to him didnt accept me, he would have doubts about our reconciliation. But I dont need to feel that fear now and this week, that fear lifted!
This morning I had to drop H at Helen's office.. he is tanned from holiday and looked gorgeous in his 'site work scruffs' and I had a little wave of anxiety over it. He told me I had NOTHING to worry about, thats all history now and he certainly couldnt care a less if he bumped into her or not. As it should be.
