Too Late For Us?

[Chuck66]

Mrbt,
I just read your entire thread from start to finish. When I say to help her leave expeditiously I do not mean its the end of your R with her. I am hoping for the same thing in my R. I am hoping that my W will come to her senses before our D is finalized but if not I am going to keep bobbing, weaving, and GAL to get her attention to reverse direction.

You and I have to trust the pros here that a D does not have to mean its the end. I want so badly for my W to return emotionally (yes I am not even close to detaching although I am doing very good job showing my wife a very detached person) that I trust the pros who say "drop the rope" or "set them free." I went straight to filing for a D only 5 weeks after the bomb.

It's also easier for me to show detachment since my wife works 11 hours per day (I still think EA on work computer is why, but no proof). I get 30 minutes in the am and 2 hours in the pm to see her. Maybe I'm too cold since neither one spoke a single word tonight. But I digress.

My point is to remember one of the last rules of the 180's is to never give up. YOU can NOT change another person. Let them be to change themselves.

And 8 has been a great friend/supporter of yours. 8 is great!