I got home, W was itching to talk to me. Got the kids in bed, and she started talking about what got me upset earlier. I told her it is disrespectful to discuss what issues I am having with S. I also told her if you want to know about my sessions or Dr. Don't ask me via email or text do it in person. She said its easier for her while at work to do it that way but said she understood.
She also said she feels I am more truthful when I write than when I speak. I am feeling small, her points r valid but I'm going to put my guard up a bit. I mentioned I read that sandra is considering taking jesse james back, u think he db'd? when I said that the W says "you. Make it sound like she shouldn't. I said "huh,what? She said you and I have changed our minds back and forth. I said oh, ya I guess.
So talks were good tonight, I was firm and being a manly man not even close to melty. Set some boundaries and told W I was going to contact S's therapist so I know how its going for him.
So back to work on me. Oh I almost forgot told the W that I'm not an alcoholic and that a lot of my issues are stress based, confirmed by therapist and my Dr who both believe my stress is what is pushing me over the edge. So I feel I took the wind out of that sail for now.
When your wife is at work, she should be focusing on work. Regardless if her points are valid, you can agree that she feels that way but you don't feel comfortable expressing the details of what you're going through via text or email, it's a very personal thing that you're going through and you don't need to email out copies of your thoughts, feelings, personal development, etc. That's your personal boundary and you're allowed it, regardless of her points and their validity. Those items are part of your personal life, she has expressed the need to separate from you, she can't have the insider's view of your personal life and still want to separate from you, how does that make sense?
You are allowed privacy and emailing her the details of your counseling, AA meetings, anger mgmt, etc. exposes that privacy and right now everyone needs to respect your privacy.
when I said that the W says "you. Make it sound like she shouldn't. I said "huh,what? She said you and I have changed our minds back and forth. I said oh, ya I guess.