I am so irate right now I left the house, too worked up to go to church. I am sitting in my truck settling down.
I don't know if I even want to go there with the W, that is so disrespectful I want to kick her @ss out, and go file myself. I need to also set the finances separate I have always paid for the bulk of things, and she wants to split then we will split everything.
I think I did a backslide big time letting my emotions get to me.
Sounds like you did backslide, and you know why too, you did let your emotions get the best of you, you got angry, she's been looking for the combination of actions that put you over the edge.
I told you she would do this, I told you to expect it, knowing about this before hand is your advantage, it's her game, she can't feel secure with you if you are insecure around her - how would that ever work?
She is testing you, and yes it sounds like she is doing this almost constantly.
Guess what?
You know she's doing this on a conscious and subconscious level, she can't even control it, she is hardwired to test her mate to make sure he is still the right man for the job.
Ignore the emails & texts whenever you can, you're not available to her 24/7 anymore, her request to separate pretty much eliminated that benefit that she once had. Set boundaries when necessary. Stand up to her when it's required. Don't get lured into fights, the fight is just one of many tests.
Pass the tests by smiling at her and knowing in your head that she is very insecure and she is testing you to be sure that you are the man for her.
Continue being happy, awesome and super busy. Make sure you are really GAL'ing.] Be super dad, make sure you're time with them is time well spent.
