I dont happen to disagree with anything anyone has said here. I just need to exhaust all my avenues before I give up. ANd I cant fail here. This is not just my life IM talking about but my kids.
Well if you really want to do right by your kids, you're going to take my original advice, the very first reply to your thread.
Kids learn by example, all children are made that way. If you believe that you learn just by what you are told then you are mistaken.
Your children are viewing this relationship and they are slowing building up programming which will eventually lead them to believe that this type of relationship is normal. You & your wife both have dual responsibility in this but since she's "polyamorous", I don't expect her to do the right thing. Your children will play out the patterns of behavior that they've learned while growing up with you & your wife, that's not a "maybe they'll be ok" chance, this is what's going to happen to them. They will end up in relationships where they are abused in some form or fashion by their spouse: mentally, emotionally, verbally, physically, sexually, etc. Instead of leaving, they'll just consider this normal relationship behavior but struggle with the fact that it doesn't feel right to them.
I get it, you want to exhaust every option before calling it quits, what other options do you really believe you have? I think this is the first time someone has posted on these forums that they were a willing partner in a polygamous relationship that has lasted several years.
This is the house you built but now you're saying you don't want to live in it anymore but you don't want to sell it to someone else because it has sentimental value so you don't know how you can stay but make it a completely different home that you can live in, somehow you want the house to be different but still be the same.
